My husband is a business owner, an entrepreneur, a wannabe rancher and an overachiever.
He's busy. All. The. Time.
Take for instance, this week. Monday he worked until 9. Tuesday til midnight. Yesterday was his birthday and he wasn't sure what time he'd be done working so I didn't make plans. I didn't have to because it turns out his work friends planned a surprise party for him.
And didn't invite me.
(To be fair, my husband did call and invite me once he knew what was happening, but what the fuck right???) Tonight it's almost 11 and he's still not home.
It's a hard line to walk when I know that he is working hard and it benefits my family and myself too, but I am lonely and missing him and having a hard time being a mom on my own.
I've tried all the talks, and the date nights and family night. He just gets busy and sometimes can't stick to it.
Anyone else have workaholic husbands? How do you reconcile the part of your brain that's grateful for the hard workin' man with the part of your heart that really needs your husband more?
Woah... his friends threw him a surprise party and didn't even invite you? Umm, wow. That's awful of them.
ReplyDeleteMy husband's job takes advantage of him a lot, sometimes he's on the couch next to me but hard at work on his laptop with a big ole "don not disturb" tattoo on his forehead. I'm glad he can do some of the work from home, but it's hard when he's here but not "here". I wish I had some pearl of wisdom on that, but I don't. It frustrates me, it frustrates him, but we need his job... we just try to make the best of it for now. It gets hard sometimes.
I hope that it gets better, or easier, or you get to see him more... something. Because it's difficult, and I'm sorry it's so difficult right now.
I've had to make it clear to The Boy that working until 7 is totally different than coming home and working on the couch til 7 - which I can fully support. He's a very focused ladder climber at a Fortune 500 so bless his heart.
ReplyDeleteThe only saving grace is that we live a mile from his office so I don't have commute issues to compete with as well.
Travel? Well that's another story, we just found a ten day span on November that we won't see each other during.
poop.