Sometimes You Just Need to be Right

And sometimes you just need somebody to tell you that you ARE right.  Or maybe I just need that.  I don't know.

Hubs and I have been together for nearly 11 years.  The first few years we were pretty good about squelching fights and being nice to each other.

Then we had a rough patch.

I mean a really, really rough patch.  Like kick you in the balls and spit on your head type of thing.  I won't be specific but it's kind of a wonder that we're still together.  (Oh yeah and I don't really have balls.)

After the rough patch, we recommitted ourselves to our marriage and our child and promised that we would never put each other through something like that again.

And now we are super committed to each other but we fight.  A lot.  Like a lot, a lot.

I think it's mostly because we are both really stubborn and feel like we need to stand our grand with one another.  I do that because I felt like he bossed me around in the beginning and I, trying to be the peacemaker, just accepted that but then resented him for it.  Of course I can't speak for him but I think he does it because he's just naturally very aggressive and a leader and ok, a little old fashioned.

But I digress.  Last night we had a whopper of a fight.  It was over something really stupid and at some points in the argument, I thought maybe, possibly I might just be a little hormonal and oversensitive, but damn it, that's what I was feeling and I wasn't going to just blame it on myself.

I slept on the couch.

This morning, Hubs asked me if I could meet him for coffee before work (after not speaking all morning.)  I did and after nearly finishing my coffee, he finally spoke:

"I was wrong."

That's what he said.  "I was wrong."

I think my heart stopped beating for a second and I may have simultaneously peed my pants and threw up in my mouth a little.  Then of course I cried and instantly forgave him.  (You can assume from this response that he doesn't admit to being at fault very often.)

Sometimes you just need someone to acknowledge your feelings and swallow their pride.  It made me love him just a little bit more.