Resolution Fail

I don't typically make New Year's resolutions.  I am constantly setting goals for myself so I don't feel the need to sit down and make some specific ones just because it is the new year.  But I also give in to peer pressure and so here is a post summarizing my goals.  (I'm easy but not cheap.)
Well I already set forth a goal for THE X which I'm already failing miserably at.  I promised myself I wouldn't be too hard on myself so even though I've missed a few workouts already, I'm still focused and planning on working out every day this week.  In my defense though, I was out of town for 4 days and we did a 1000 piece puzzle so I exercised my brain. 
Anyway, I also have recently made a plan to volunteer and submitted applications to both places I wanted to volunteer for.  I have training set up for one at the end of February, but haven't heard anything back from the other place yet, which is fine.  One thing at a time BU. 
Finally, and really the only actual new goal has to do with my house.  And my psychosis I guess.  I obviously have anxiety issues and am borderline OCD about certain things.  (This is a self-diagnosis.  I don't really know if I qualify as OCD or if I am just a crazy bitch.)  The certain thing is my house.  I really, really like it to be clean.  Well, duh, BU, who doesn't like their house to be clean?  Yes, but sometimes when people see their house get messy, they sigh and figure out a time they can take care of it.  I get fucking furious.  I yell at people and throw shit around and basically go on a rampage until it is clean again.  I am like a human tornado with giant teeth coming out.  It causes a lot of problems around my house.  My son gets sad when I go all Kathy Bates and my husband gets frustrated and pissed off.  Sometimes I get to the point where I just have to lock myself away and shut down for a little bit until I can wrap my head around what I need to do.  (So yes apparently crazy bitch is the correct self-diagnosis.)  So that brings me back to my goal... not to be a crazy bitch.  Or more realistically, figure out a way to get a handle on my house and my sanity. 
I figured there would be an app for that (the cleaning but not the sanity.)  I couldn't find one.  I found one website that was like crazy town cleaning.  It really had so much every day that I felt like it might be more overwhelming then helpful.  If I can't find any others then I will give it a try.  So I'm coming to you, my faithful follower, how do you manage your house?